June 05, 2011

Yes, You Will Get Older

And your friends will stop dancing the drunk-baraati dance.

You'll stop eating dosas at the stalls, and have reunions at fine dining restaurants.

Some of them will inexplicably take to jazz. Or feng shui. Or marrying.

Enjoying Govinda movies will be looked down upon. Or remembered indulgently with a "We were so silly then!" Some people will start throwing names of Japanese filmmakers around.

Cutting chai will be replaced by green tea. Chocolate (any chocolate), by hand-made chocolates, or Swiss chocolates, or truffles (what in God's name are they?), or -even worse- cream-filled chocolates where they bung in a pile of yellow cream with a 0.01 mm layer of chocolate to cover it.

Birthdays will become about painful (and painstaking) reciprocity, instead of show-up-and-rob-of-available-money.

Some will compare husbands and wives. Many will compare money.

Most of you will do all those things to your kids, which you told each other you'd never do when you have kids.

Some will unabashedly kiss posteriors. The rest will do it with some embarrassment.

Superiority and inferiority complexes will happen. Commonalities will fade.

I'm sorry, there isn't a last redeeming line of hope. Or maybe there is. Yes?


a traveller said...

But those reunions, no matter how fine the dining becomes, will still be as loud and fun as they ever were. Touchwood.


Anonymous said...

no no no .. it will all be the same.. shhh..
except may be tht marriage part..

Undertaker(s) said...

I just wanted to say I love your blog. You're so witty and sarcastic and I can totally relate to that :)

Anil P said...

Commonalities will fade, yes. But if it means for taking up Jazz, then so be it.

The Obscure Intellect said...

The only good thing about growing older would be to grow up once again, this time vicariously, through your kids :)

Abhishek said...

Brilliant! Thanks so much for reinforcing all my fears of adulthood X-(

Zeba said...

Right. The little glimmer of hope that was lighting my horizon. I don't see it anymore. Thank you.


rahul aggarwal said...

as you grow old, you become more mature and with maturity you leave behind things of the past when you were young and learn new things...

1 will not drink green tea when he's 18 right...?

so everything has a time and age...to come!!!


xyzandme said...

Old is gold which is too cheap to be sold.

hateindadverts said...

Picture these advertisements common in Indian media today -
Ad 1 - A woman who wants to get fairer skin because she wants to attract that one man she likes
Ad 2 - Women are concerned about their skin colour, rashes or sun burns in hot weather
Ad 3 - A woman is busy thinking what she will cook tonight
Ad 4 - A woman is liberated, reason being a sanitary napkin which keeps her free from the trouble of the "Undino ke problems" (problems of those difficult days)
Ad 5 - A woman gets tired of meeting all the requirements of her family - husband, kids, in-laws - at the end suffers from a head/back ache. Finally, she gets some attention and then is provided with a massage or medicine.

Media decides the context in which a woman should be placed, and reinforces it constantly.

Media tries to establish a woman's feminine side, especially if she is a successful woman. It seems the Indian media loves to see women first as successful home-makers. The ideal picture is the femme fatale, the supermom, the sex kitten, the nasty corporate climber. Television, film and popular magazines are full of images of women and girls who are typically white, desperately thin, and made up to the hilt.

It is not that the portrayal has not changed with time at all. Earlier women either added the glam quotient of an ad or were busy looking good. Today, at least they are shown working in some ads. And today, even men are shown using creams and face wash to get that fair skin. However, when men do it, it is because they want to look macho. When women use such creams, it is because they want to attract men or to be accepted in the society which looks down upon dark women.

Although the media wants to project the modern, liberated woman, it is actually endorsing women as consumers. Not only is this derogatory to the image of women, it is also linked with their real concerns. They have better things to do than to look good and think about what the dinner menu will be. In fact many women today do not cook at all.

Have you ever noticed that interviews of men in newspapers hardly ever mention their marital status or their dress sense? The focus is on their work. However, the moment it's a woman, all such details are provided. What she likes to do apart from work, does she do all the household chores, etc.

While the women in Bollywood may no longer be portrayed as self-sacrificing door-mats, they still have to look sizzling hot most of the times. Although men have also started doing item numbers, the number is still less.

Media probably ignored the fact that the last few decades have seen tremendous changes in the lifestyles of men and women in India, all thanks to globalization, market economics and above all, fast strides in technology. Media, itself has also undergone a sea of change.

Another image of women in India that has grown in the recent years is the portrayal of the woman as a showpiece or an icon of glamour. We hardly come across an advertisement these days where we don't see a pretty model beaming at us, be it the advertisement of a new model car or that of a cold drink.

Thus, it won't be wrong to say that the portrayal of women in the Indian media oscillates between these two extremes: the "mother India" and the "glamour girl."

What the media ignores to see and project is the image of woman as a serious partner in decision-making, a serious contender as a professional: doctor, engineer, teacher or a computer specialist, a serious politician or leader. India today has a lot of successful women who have other roles as well and are not just home makers or pretty empty-headed bimbos. What is worse is the fact that this portrayal comes when the media industry is said to be dominated by women

hateindadverts said...

the above is from an article on msn.

Nefertiti said...

impromptu goa trips will be replaced by vacations in europe...

tattered shorts will gie way to three-piece suits...

cheap old monk will be poured away in favour of old wine...

real people will become wannabes...

love this post and love the blog